Human Relations (Marriage)

Yes, I am MARRIED.

[I have experienced marriage for 24 years now and must say it is quite a fulfilling experience for ME. I will not be wrong in saying that pre-marriage and post-marriage thought process is completely different for both husband and wife. It is only when you are in the relationship do you realize that the relationship requires a holistic approach rather than an individual wish list being fulfilled. During the course of 24 years, I also saw various emotions move sometimes into a high and then sometimes into a low but overall life is good ]

What truly is Marriage?

Is it a physical bond, a bond of two souls, a bond because of need bond because of society or a bond because of fashion ……?

Marriage

Different people express it differently -> some say it is one of the most celebrated human bonds between a man and woman, some say it is one of the milestones in the journey of life without which the life is incomplete and the experience hollow, some classify marriage as a pious bond. Marriage truly binds body and soul and completes the need for companionship – togetherness.

Solemnizing Marriage

Any Region: Any Religion, AnyCast: Any Creed the ceremony may be dealt differently viz the solemnizing of the relationship in the Church with the Father reading the BIBLE, in Gurdwara Sahab reading the Guru Granth Sahab, in Masjid reading the Nikah Nama, in Temple reading Mantras or in other formats all lead to -> bonding of man with a woman of one cast, colour, creed, religion, background with the same or other.

RESPONSIBILITIES OF HUSBAND & WIFE

Ultimately Marriage is a commitment made between a man and a woman to stand by each other till eternity. Commitment is not only to stand by each other but also to understand each other, and understand each one’s needs physically, socially, and psychologically.

Marriage requires jointly planning life ahead (family planning), making each party to all decision-making so far as family is concerned.

INGREDIENTS FOR A HAPPY MARRIED LIFE

Sharing, Communicating, and Trusting makes the bond stronger. All make mistakes – forgiveness is an important virtue that both husband and wife should consider at such times.

Love, Emotion, Compassion, and Empathy all are important ingredients of a fulfilling marriage.

Marriage is a responsibility – a responsibility not only between husband and wife, not only between families of husband and wife not also towards extending the family but also towards contributing to society in creating a harmonious social environment

Every married couple has their own experience in their own story. Some have painful tales to tell and some have joyful stories to narrate. For some marriage was an event planned by their parents and for some, it was a long relationship that eventuated into marriage.

Marriage is Divine, Marriage is Destined.

[Young age marriage, Late marriage. Marriage within the community: Marriage outside community Inter cast Marriage Arranged Marriage – Love Marriage – Love but Arranged Marriage Widow Marriage Live in a relationship but no marriage & now Same-Sex Marriage ] some of the formats of marriage

(I have written the above short note on what I understand about “Marriage”. You may like it or you may not, we can agree or agree to disagree. These are my personal thoughts )

Will write on Husband and Wife Relationship Next…